When Things Start To Get Uncomfortable
A FEW THINGS
Earlier this month our community lost an amazing woman. She was a true pillar of the community. An amazing Mom, and amazing Grandmother. She was involved in every thing when it came to the community. She ran the score board at sporting events, worked with local committees to make our community better and she was a devoted Catholic. She was also my mom's best friend. She died way to young after a fight with Cancer.
In the last few years my mother has lost two of her closest friends to Cancer. I have always felt death is a part of life but as I get older and my kids get older I feel we are all getting the shaft by not living to be a healthy 100.
These women will not see their Grandchildren grow up. They will miss out on amazing school events, college graduations, weddings, and all of the memories in between. This is so unfair. This is wrong. On my way home from the family service I informed God that my mother needs to live forever. I mean is that to much to ask???
Luke Perry actor--heartthrob of my generation was 52 and passed away from a stroke. He is only a few years older than me and my husband. When you hear "dead at the age of 52" and you are 44 along with attending a funeral of another woman taken to soon you can't help but think about death a little bit. I find myself Googling every symptom and freaking out about every ache and pain. And when my mom is not feeling well I seriously find myself asking a thousand questions--and I send her to the doctor. If I could make her live in a bubble I would.
Isn't this a happy blog this week? When thinking about death I am not talking about getting your estate together--although I strongly suggest it. Talk with your kids about your wishes. Talk to your kids about what matters to you and what doesn't. That communication will help them when your time comes. After witnessing six estates--communication is KEY. On the other side of this-- I am talking about thinking about what we are doing here on earth at this moment? Are we leaving the Legacy we want to leave? Are we doing what we love? Are we enjoying our time--our down time? I have been thinking about that a lot lately.
My mother is extremely active in my kids life. My father--not so much. My in laws are also not involved in my kids life and there is only about 8 miles difference between our house and their house. What an absolute shame that the three Grandparents have missed out on so much by their OWN choice. My mother on the other hand has been by my side and my kids side through it all. My kids know they can call her and she would be there in the snap of a finger. She absolutely deserves credit for all that she has done for me and my children. I hope that when I become a Grandmother (some day) I can be there like my mother is there for mine.
I have also realized in my forties that things I wouldn't have cared about in my twenties I am now caring about. I have been working on a family tree through Ancestry and it is a gift to my kids. I want them to know the history of our families. I want them to know the struggles, the successes, the stories that made us who we are. Flawed and all.
This week I launched my Facebook Page "A Little Bit Of Everything" because I have collected glassware and other vintage items for years that I now need to sell. My main purpose of this page is to sell the glassware that I have collected (obviously) and also for my kids have an inventory in case something happens to me. Glassware has always been special to me. I have pieces from all of my Grandparents to be passed down to my kids. I have found that those are the pieces that I want to keep. The stories behind that glassware are priceless.
I also starting really thinking about my health. I am a Type 2 Diabetic, I have high blood pressure, I battle depression and I am also 100 pounds overweight. I am cutting my life short by continuing this path. I love to eat--I am also a stress eater. But I think about "Luke Perry--Dead at 52" and I realize that maybe death is on my own doorstep.
I have been uncomfortable for awhile now. Making mental health changes, making changes regarding my physical health, career changes, taking on new projects, and cutting out old projects. It is a strange feeling to be this uncomfortable. But I am starting to really embrace it.
Until Next Week--Kristi
KRISTI SPILLS THE TEA--
How is everyone doing on their New Year's Resolutions? As a refresher--here is a list of my Resolutions.
1. Clean up the clutter on social media
2. Pick up a book
3. Get involved in a cause
4. Use a DAMN planner
5. Clean up the clutter around me
6. Put retirement plan in place
7. Try something new
8. Eat a little better
9. Start caring about me
10. Create a vision board.
I have done pretty good so far.
1. I have cleaned up a lot of clutter on social media--I am adjusting my "A Few Things" page and my private page--going to make my circle smaller when it comes to my private life.
2. I am slowly--SLOWLY reading a book
3. My cause right now is to help keep our state 4-H Performing Arts going. We need the art to stay in 4-H.
4. I am NOT using my planner! UGH--why is this so hard.
5. Launched "A Little Bit Of Everything" to begin clearing the clutter around me.
6. My retirement plan is in process.
7. I have tried a few new things. Getting over the fear of fear.
8. I am paying attention to my physical and mental health.
9. Everyday I give myself a little bit more of a break.
10. I have NOT made a visual vision board--but I have everything written down.
*Feb. 15th--left job at Signature HomeStyles
*March 4--resigned up for classes in tourism industry
*March 9th--launched "A Little Bit Of Everything"
*March 15th--Leaving job at WineShop at Home
*April 1st--Clearing out Family Facebook Friendship List (If we haven't contacted each other in a year--do we really need a Facebook Friendship?)
*April 15th--Retiring from EMS (Emergency Medical Technician)
A lot of changes are happening. I am embracing it.
Kristi
Earlier this month our community lost an amazing woman. She was a true pillar of the community. An amazing Mom, and amazing Grandmother. She was involved in every thing when it came to the community. She ran the score board at sporting events, worked with local committees to make our community better and she was a devoted Catholic. She was also my mom's best friend. She died way to young after a fight with Cancer.
In the last few years my mother has lost two of her closest friends to Cancer. I have always felt death is a part of life but as I get older and my kids get older I feel we are all getting the shaft by not living to be a healthy 100.
These women will not see their Grandchildren grow up. They will miss out on amazing school events, college graduations, weddings, and all of the memories in between. This is so unfair. This is wrong. On my way home from the family service I informed God that my mother needs to live forever. I mean is that to much to ask???
Luke Perry actor--heartthrob of my generation was 52 and passed away from a stroke. He is only a few years older than me and my husband. When you hear "dead at the age of 52" and you are 44 along with attending a funeral of another woman taken to soon you can't help but think about death a little bit. I find myself Googling every symptom and freaking out about every ache and pain. And when my mom is not feeling well I seriously find myself asking a thousand questions--and I send her to the doctor. If I could make her live in a bubble I would.
Isn't this a happy blog this week? When thinking about death I am not talking about getting your estate together--although I strongly suggest it. Talk with your kids about your wishes. Talk to your kids about what matters to you and what doesn't. That communication will help them when your time comes. After witnessing six estates--communication is KEY. On the other side of this-- I am talking about thinking about what we are doing here on earth at this moment? Are we leaving the Legacy we want to leave? Are we doing what we love? Are we enjoying our time--our down time? I have been thinking about that a lot lately.
My mother is extremely active in my kids life. My father--not so much. My in laws are also not involved in my kids life and there is only about 8 miles difference between our house and their house. What an absolute shame that the three Grandparents have missed out on so much by their OWN choice. My mother on the other hand has been by my side and my kids side through it all. My kids know they can call her and she would be there in the snap of a finger. She absolutely deserves credit for all that she has done for me and my children. I hope that when I become a Grandmother (some day) I can be there like my mother is there for mine.
I have also realized in my forties that things I wouldn't have cared about in my twenties I am now caring about. I have been working on a family tree through Ancestry and it is a gift to my kids. I want them to know the history of our families. I want them to know the struggles, the successes, the stories that made us who we are. Flawed and all.
This week I launched my Facebook Page "A Little Bit Of Everything" because I have collected glassware and other vintage items for years that I now need to sell. My main purpose of this page is to sell the glassware that I have collected (obviously) and also for my kids have an inventory in case something happens to me. Glassware has always been special to me. I have pieces from all of my Grandparents to be passed down to my kids. I have found that those are the pieces that I want to keep. The stories behind that glassware are priceless.
I also starting really thinking about my health. I am a Type 2 Diabetic, I have high blood pressure, I battle depression and I am also 100 pounds overweight. I am cutting my life short by continuing this path. I love to eat--I am also a stress eater. But I think about "Luke Perry--Dead at 52" and I realize that maybe death is on my own doorstep.
I have been uncomfortable for awhile now. Making mental health changes, making changes regarding my physical health, career changes, taking on new projects, and cutting out old projects. It is a strange feeling to be this uncomfortable. But I am starting to really embrace it.
Until Next Week--Kristi
KRISTI SPILLS THE TEA--
How is everyone doing on their New Year's Resolutions? As a refresher--here is a list of my Resolutions.
1. Clean up the clutter on social media
2. Pick up a book
3. Get involved in a cause
4. Use a DAMN planner
5. Clean up the clutter around me
6. Put retirement plan in place
7. Try something new
8. Eat a little better
9. Start caring about me
10. Create a vision board.
I have done pretty good so far.
1. I have cleaned up a lot of clutter on social media--I am adjusting my "A Few Things" page and my private page--going to make my circle smaller when it comes to my private life.
2. I am slowly--SLOWLY reading a book
3. My cause right now is to help keep our state 4-H Performing Arts going. We need the art to stay in 4-H.
4. I am NOT using my planner! UGH--why is this so hard.
5. Launched "A Little Bit Of Everything" to begin clearing the clutter around me.
6. My retirement plan is in process.
7. I have tried a few new things. Getting over the fear of fear.
8. I am paying attention to my physical and mental health.
9. Everyday I give myself a little bit more of a break.
10. I have NOT made a visual vision board--but I have everything written down.
*Feb. 15th--left job at Signature HomeStyles
*March 4--resigned up for classes in tourism industry
*March 9th--launched "A Little Bit Of Everything"
*March 15th--Leaving job at WineShop at Home
*April 1st--Clearing out Family Facebook Friendship List (If we haven't contacted each other in a year--do we really need a Facebook Friendship?)
*April 15th--Retiring from EMS (Emergency Medical Technician)
A lot of changes are happening. I am embracing it.
Kristi
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