After Wiley...
I have spent most of my week mourning the loss of our sweet Wiley. My goal each day was to at least get three things done. Sometimes I did other times I just rested. In the quietness of it all along I started to really think about things.
For those that reached out on Facebook--I want to take this opportunity to thank you for caring enough to send love and understanding. Wiley was by my side for 15 years and to lose that is something I am struggling to adjust to.
As an Exchange Coordinator that solely depends on social media to place my exchange kids I am always looking at numbers. So out of pure curiosity I ran the numbers on my emotional posts. Here are the results.
Family--only 7 responded
Local Friends-- 20 responded
Friends I Have Met Through The Years--76 responded
For years I have witnessed Facebook changing their algorithms and they have plugged up our feeds with paid ad space and news that appeals to our interests. I have to admit I am not seeing all 854 people in my feed. I will also admit that some of my friends I have either "unfollowed" or "muted" because I was tired of reading about their political views. But what I do know is that the mutual friends between ALL of my friends means that when a major life event happens it goes around.
The biggest shock to me was family. And out of my local friends there were some that I NEVER thought would respond to my emotions and the ones I thought would be by my side were nowhere to be found. I generally have the same people from the friends I have met through the years respond to all of my joys and sorrows. They are my lifelong circle.
Social Media is all I have living here in the middle of nowhere. It keeps me in the world, I have laughed, cried, shared moments, encouraged, loved and lost on social media. Not only that Social Media is my job. It can be the joy of my life and it can also make me feel like I am all alone.
742 people on my friend list don't even know my dog passed away. They don't know I have traveled the world this year or that my son was Homecoming King. My daughters are always teasing me because I always say I am going to clear out my "friend list" and I never do. Is this a numbers game? Is this Facebook and it's algorithms? Is it that I just annoy the shit out of everyone? I really don't know. But I do know this--I know who my circle of friends are. I know who I can message, or call or visit and would be welcomed in open arms.
There is no promise I will drop anyone off of my Facebook Friends List but I am aware now of who my people are--who I want to be around--those who lift me, comfort me and inspire me and having this circle gives me the opportunity to give my love and support to them.
Until next time...Kristi
For those that reached out on Facebook--I want to take this opportunity to thank you for caring enough to send love and understanding. Wiley was by my side for 15 years and to lose that is something I am struggling to adjust to.
As an Exchange Coordinator that solely depends on social media to place my exchange kids I am always looking at numbers. So out of pure curiosity I ran the numbers on my emotional posts. Here are the results.
Family--only 7 responded
Local Friends-- 20 responded
Friends I Have Met Through The Years--76 responded
For years I have witnessed Facebook changing their algorithms and they have plugged up our feeds with paid ad space and news that appeals to our interests. I have to admit I am not seeing all 854 people in my feed. I will also admit that some of my friends I have either "unfollowed" or "muted" because I was tired of reading about their political views. But what I do know is that the mutual friends between ALL of my friends means that when a major life event happens it goes around.
The biggest shock to me was family. And out of my local friends there were some that I NEVER thought would respond to my emotions and the ones I thought would be by my side were nowhere to be found. I generally have the same people from the friends I have met through the years respond to all of my joys and sorrows. They are my lifelong circle.
Social Media is all I have living here in the middle of nowhere. It keeps me in the world, I have laughed, cried, shared moments, encouraged, loved and lost on social media. Not only that Social Media is my job. It can be the joy of my life and it can also make me feel like I am all alone.
742 people on my friend list don't even know my dog passed away. They don't know I have traveled the world this year or that my son was Homecoming King. My daughters are always teasing me because I always say I am going to clear out my "friend list" and I never do. Is this a numbers game? Is this Facebook and it's algorithms? Is it that I just annoy the shit out of everyone? I really don't know. But I do know this--I know who my circle of friends are. I know who I can message, or call or visit and would be welcomed in open arms.
There is no promise I will drop anyone off of my Facebook Friends List but I am aware now of who my people are--who I want to be around--those who lift me, comfort me and inspire me and having this circle gives me the opportunity to give my love and support to them.
Until next time...Kristi
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