MIND Intentional Living And Love Languages

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 A FEW THINGS--

It is really funny how the universe works when you start to pay attention. 

After talking about MIND (Moving In a Different Direction) last week I received my new books for a coaching class I have been in this past year. This class is not because I want to be a life coach. I am just now getting MY life together--not sure I could help anyone else in the Life Coach Department. This class is about tackling what is really going on in my life and the steps I can take to improve it. Some of the classes have been quite challenging. Each month I learn something new and try to implement it in my life. And I have met some of the most amazing women. 

This month there are two books I needed to read. "The Little Book of Intentional Living" by Carolyn Boyes and "You Get Me" by Gary Chapman and Jen Mickelborough. They are both simple reads with a lot of meaning. 

Intentional living and love languages are really not my cup of tea. When I think of the love languages I think about romance, and neither my husband nor I are very good with the whole romance thing. We like food. We love food. I always tell people that we are the "add cheese" family because if the food doesn't turn out--we just need to add some cheese. 

Anyways--as I dove into these two books (very easy and quick reads) I realized that our love languages are not just for our significant other but for our friends, our families and even our acquaintances. I took the time to think about people that I really care about and I brain stormed a few ideas.

1. I love to send and receive happy mail. Cards, little notes to brighten someone's day. 

2. Help your friends and family with a house project. Right now I am helping my daughter get her house ready for the new baby. I have dealt with small houses my entire life. I know how to make small spaces work, and I enjoy doing that--and I know my daughter appreciates it.

3. Don't want to spend money on a card or a stamp--send a text message of encouragement. Try doing it on a Monday. No one likes Mondays--make their Monday better.

4. I love to give gifts. I have plenty of friends who would love a wine basket. Share a glass of wine and lend your ear. Let your friends vent. 

5. Hugs. With the pandemic going on I think I missed hugging people more than anything. Now--we have the opportunity to hug our friends and family again--so let's make a point of doing that.

6. For my husband--the most romantic thing I could ever do for him is to say--"sure I will help wash your truck." We have ran a trucking business for quite a few years and washing the truck is something I absolutely HATE. So I might just surprise him and help with that chore.

7. Tell those you love--that you love them. I didn't grow up hearing that a lot--I have tried to make a point of telling my kids I love them more and more. Especially now that 3 of the 4 kids are adults. Say "I Love You." I think the world needs more of that.

8. Encouragement. Are we encouraging others? I am thinking this might be a weakness for me. I definitely don't know if I encourage "right" but I am going to try.

9. Go out and get some lunch with someone you care about--and then pay for their meal. Pay it forward--it will return to you.

10. Give those that you love and care about--your time.

Living a life of intentions means a life of positivity. And I think we are really lacking in positivity. I know I am. Seems like everything that SHOULD be giving us the positive vibes is doing the opposite. We are looking at humans as disposable assets--not humans. And that is heart breaking. 

Let's choose Joy, Fulfilment, and Bliss instead of "not my problem." because in the long run--it IS going to become our problem.

The mental health of this country is in really rough shape. And not all of us have a degree to specialize in helping with the deep stuff. But if we take the time--take a moment to brighten someone's day--well maybe--for a moment-- we can make someone smile and regain some faith in humans. And maybe we can show the world that we are not disposable assets. 

Until Next Time--

Kristi


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